Navigating Motherly Disapproval
column, R. Eric Thomas offers advice to a reader struggling with their boyfriend’s mother not approving of them. Dear Eric: I have been in a relationship with a fantastic man for over a year now, and we are considering marriage. Both of us have been married before, with my partner having children from his previous marriages.... CLICK TO READ THE FULL NEWS HERE▶▶
Unfortunately, his mother has made it clear that she has no interest in getting to know me, citing the turmoil caused by his second ex-wife. She takes care of his child while he travels for work, which complicates matters further. I can’t help but draw parallels to my past, where my ex-husband’s mother treated me poorly throughout our marriage.
I am torn between my desire for a harmonious relationship with my partner’s family and my love for him. Should I sacrifice my hopes of having a supportive extended family to keep my relationship intact? – Ignored In-Law Dear In-Law: While your partner’s mother is entitled to her feelings, your partner should be advocating for you.
It’s crucial for him to communicate to his mother that you are different from his ex and that you hold significance in his life. However, given that it’s only been a year, there might still be room for change.
Your partner’s mother might need time to trust in your commitment and recover from past wounds. Understanding her perspective, especially since she is currently looking after his second ex’s child, is vital.
Healing and fostering relationships will require patience and open conversations with your partner. This process may be gradual, but with time, understanding, and mutual support, it’s possible to navigate through this challenging situation.
