It’s safe to say that when most people get married, they intend to stay married for the rest of their lives — otherwise, why even bother getting married in the first place, right? However, that only seems to work out about half the time — depending on what study or news report you believe. In a few weeks, my wife and I will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary together and 25 years as a couple....READ ORIGINAL & FULL CONTENT FROM SOURCE |
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The truth is that marriage isn’t for everybody, but if you think it’s for you and your mate — consider the following 20 common sense tips that might tip the odds in your favor and have helped my wife and I stay together for more than two decades.
People who are in marriages that last twenty-plus years have these traits:
1. They’re unselfish
We’re all selfish, but if you want your marriage to last and be a success you need to consider the needs of your spouse before your own needs.
2. They’re realistic
Neither of you is a perfect person, and if you think you are perfect — that’s probably a good sign your relationship might be in trouble. Once you both admit that you’ll make mistakes and disappoint each other, your expectations will be anchored in reality rather than fantasy.
3. They marry each other’s family too
Make no mistake, each of you has dysfunctional aspects of your extended family and you’re both “marrying into” each other’s familial history. Side with each other at all times; otherwise the extended family inertia can drive a divisive wedge in your marriage.
4. They communicate
On-going, bi-directional communication will help build trust, set expectations, and avoid conflicts. There is no substitute for it.
5. They speak kindly to each other
Don’t curse, criticize, or call each other names. Even though you’re adults, coarse discourse only tears each other down — you need to build each other up with your words first, and kind actions will follow.
Couples who cultivate compassion and express kindness are more likely to experience greater satisfaction and stay together long-term. Studies, including those by renowned American psychologist John Gottman, highlight that happy couples prioritize kindness and build it into their relationships, making five times as many positive comments as negative ones.
6. They have common interest and goals
The strongest relationships require common interests and experiences to endure over time. While there are exceptions, most relationships require more commonalities than differences to succeed.
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